I get a good amount of emails, texts, DM’s and Facebook messages from people asking me to address their specific relationship issues on this blog, and since I use to answer a lot of questions on here back in the day, I figured there is no time like the present to revisit answering relationship questions.
Today, we tackle a topic that MANY women often wonder about, yet receive FAR too many mixed messages from men to formulate a clear understanding of what we truly want: How can a woman build a solid relationship with a man built on genuine friendship WITHOUT ending up in the friend zone?
As they build their friendship, they may be prone to flirting from time to time and even going on dates that don’t involve other friends. Those moments when you are together, working hard and encouraging each other will help to build camaraderie. The more you learn to trust each other and be there for each other through these team challenges, the easier it will be to transition from a friendship into a romance. That is where you can easily fail and fall into the friend zone.
It shows that you’re interested in knowing the person better, and at the same time, it also brings both of you closer.
But always remember this, giving your attention doesn’t necessarily mean you have to accept anything this friend says.
They develop the mindset that all you are is a friend.
When that happens, it will be a lot harder for you to be seen as a date in the future. They would rather keep you there so that they don’t lose the friendship.
They just act like they are a normal friend when in fact they do have romantic interest.
As a result, the other friend may have no idea that there is more to this than just a friendship.
Have your own views, but let your friend know that you take them seriously enough to give them your undivided attention.
This is a first step in creating a closer bond between both of you.
The guy says he wants to be friends first, and then I’m the one who gets friend-zoned…which makes me question if I’m gf/wife material or if I’m such a good friend, they wouldn’t want to ruin that. Because there’s a lot to unpack, I will address the questions and topics brought up chronologically as they appear in the email.
First, please understand that men definitely WANT to have an incredibly strong and genuine friendship with their woman.
These guys will beat your nani up, and the second you bring up relationship talks, he will turn around and say See, men HATE women’s friend zones because for MOST MEN it’s the END zone.