We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer.
In some cases, the guy is just drawn to a woman who takes care of him, but beware that some men may be true gold diggers looking for a free ride or to be taken care of financially, she adds.
Being the breadwinner may not matter to you if, say, he makes an amazing dinner every night so you don’t have to worry about cooking or he’s a great handyman and has updated your entire apartment, but only you can decide that.
So don’t be surprised if he chooses hanging with his bros over coming over to your place more often than you’d hope he would.
“Many younger men are more connected with their peers than they are with the idea of being a couple,” explains Naples, FL-based author and relationship columnist April Masini.
We are both hard-working with many hobbies in common.
In my opinion, age has nothing to do with our relationship.
“This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he’s unable to provide for and protect you.”Even worse, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner.
“A man can sometimes make his girlfriend feel like more of a mommy-figure than a peer,” Ludwig says.
Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
If you want to make things work, be sure you can handle the following. Men reach their sexual prime in their twenties due to a spike in testosterone, while women typically reach theirs in their 30s and 40s.
“They don’t want to miss out on being part of their group, with whom they glean their identity.”Although you may be ready to walk down the aisle, it can be hard to get a younger man to put a ring on it.